7 Things Movies Get Wrong About Relationships
We all seek advice from the movies that we watch these days and imagine our life to be the same. But some of the films are such that you can’t expect to seek advice. Though your heart loves watching romantic movies, that is the reality. Our minds misconceive from the film what the truth must be, and that’s when most of the film remains toxic. Here we relieve what’s not true.
1. A myth about: Treating miscommunication to be typical.
In the movies, we usually witness that the guy who likes a girl waits until he is vulnerable to get the girl. Meaning the communication is less or even straightforward. The scenes are shown so that the guy finally puts forth his feelings in the end. And all the misconceptions that happened without being straightforward clear out in a matter of a minute.
In reality: True, the honesty and expressing romantic gestures may help. But it takes a lot of communication to solve a problem between two people, and majorly the communications lead to deeper connection and no miscommunication. It is not normal to treat miscommunication as a norm. It isn’t; more significant problems in life get better only on conversing.
2. A myth about: Love is what makes it all well.
Two people indeed have feelings, and they express love. But when the life goals are different, though you have love, it isn’t enough to fix things. Maybe at times, the circumstances put you in a situation where it is hard to continue. But it doesn’t mean love is gone. To have a solid relationship, love itself is not enough. Other aspects like circumstances and goals should also match to work it out.
The reality check: Don’t believe that love alone can work things out. Two people who love have even departed. After all, some things didn’t work in their favor because the two people involved in a relationship are not considered one entity. For that one entity to happen, two individuals work together. So, the identities of each individual have to sync for things to work well though there exists love.
3. A myth about: The other half of you is your partner.
Isn’t a person complete without the other? How true do you think it is? The question like, what about the hobbies? Or your friends? Or even family? Aren’t they in your reality? Have you not been living even before the person came into your life? It can arise a sense of controlling behavior, insecurities, or even codependency.
Reality check: Think practically, confirmed that the person makes you unique. There is no comment on it but believing that they are your everything isn’t true. Cause we, in reality, are dependent on so many things, if you notice. Let’s say you are a writer, and would you stop writing because the love left you? No right? Believe in the fact that we all coexist with the things that we like. And it’s not just one thing. So, the partner shouldn’t complete with you; instead, you must be completed enough to accept the person you love with the version of awesomeness you love.
4. A myth about: Forget and forgive me if you truly love me.
That’s completely misleading to say excuse me in the name of love! We are human beings and exhibit characteristics that another person need not like but is our true quality. That doesn’t mean that another person is obligated to love you even for things he doesn’t like. And when it comes to not saying sorry cause we love? A relationship is about saying sorry, though we love when we are at times wrong because what’s the point of wanting to be right all the time?
Reality check: In love, the matter is about respect and mutual understanding. No one can obligate the partner in forgiving some mistake just because you both are in love. There must be respect and no obligation.
5. A myth about: Chasing behind things.
In a lot of movies, we observe that after a fight and days of not talking to each other, in the end, they run behind the person to patch things up? In reality, is it true? Ask yourself!
Reality check: Most people forget that being in a relationship means respecting each other and showing interest to make things work, unlike movies that show lat minute patches up. That’s not how things work. If something is wrong, talk it out and resolve rather than not talking and blocking people after the fight. In the real world, if you try to patch up after ignoring, it means you already lost them. And respect one’s decision when they say no. It means NO. One must accept it.
6. A myth about Only one perfect man!
Have you heard the concept of soulmates? A-one perfect man? Seventy-three percent of Americans think that there is one ideal man. Like we are destined to be with. But the idea of two things namely was researched, and they are growing beliefs and destined beliefs. But well, the Romeo and Juliet concept is destined beliefs.
Reality check: The research said those who went in looking for a perfect man had many breakups for the simple fact that their imagination checklist didn’t match. And they started looking into the partner for what he isn’t rather than accepting what he is suitable for. But there is no saying there isn’t a person who would love you better. It’s just that love what you have. Would you mind making a choice and growing with it?
7. A myth about Passion in the fight!
The movies show that two people who couldn’t withstand each other began to love! How is that possible? Hasn’t this question knocked your head? It’s only fascinating to see them in the movie, but in reality, it isn’t what it seems.
Reality check: We often think a fight means a signal of love! You’re mistaken. Is there a passion in a row? Really? It’s an act of narcissism! An act of immaturity. A sense of control or abuse. There might have been love when it started, but when it turns to a fight where you can’t withstand each other, it isn’t loving anymore. It has become toxic. And also, a depiction of friendship leads to love? Need not hold every time. A quality needed for being more might have lacked in a friend, and that’s why some relations stay friends. But true, a relationship is a strong bond of friendship before love. Meaning quality of what friends have to contemplate a person is necessitated in love as people forget after falling in love.
Final Thoughts
A relationship needs an effort from both sides, and it takes time and interest to get the vibe as it was earlier. The above tips are meant to aid you for the better!
